My daughter was placed with us as an infant and her birth parents have been VERY sporadic with contact; she is 3 1/2 now. They moved out of state and there was no contact for over year. I let them come for a visit recently (the first one) and things went ok and now there has not been any contact in over 2 months. They can email, fb, text and send letters/pictures through the mail if they choose (it has always been that way). My problem is I do not like how they just want to come and go. Things need to be consistent; she needs stability. I don’t want them to be strangers when they do come for another visit; she is getting older and starting to realize things better. How do I talk with them about keeping their contact consistent? Or should I just let them continue to be sporadic? The actual visits are once a year; but as far as contact and updated pictures of themselves… would be good for her so she can at least recognize who they are… Am I asking to much??? Oh and there is supposed to be letters and pictures 2 times a year and the agreement states that if I don’t receive a letter in over a year then I can stop all contact… so I could have done that; but I don’t want to.
Posted in: Community Wisdom– June 10, 2013