We have two adopted children. Our daughter was adopted at birth and we currently do not have contact with her birthfamily. Our son has not been officially adopted, but will be in a month. He was in a foster home for the first year of his life and then placed with his birth grandparents. The birth family and the foster family have become friends. At the time when we were being considered for adoption the foster mom stated that she would be getting visits after placement and adoption. My husband and I discussed it at the time and decided what we were uncomfortable with this. We came up with every other month visits with the birth family, pictures and letters on the opposite months. So far we have had visits with the birth grandparents almost monthly. We have yet to have any visits with the birth parents, but know that we will. In the end contact about how much and who it would involve was never discussed. So now We have just received an email from the foster family about visits. We want to tell her no, but are afraid it will hurt our good relationship with the birthfamily. We do not want any comtact with the foster family. What do we do?
Posted in: Community Wisdom– July 6, 2013