My son and his then girlfriend placed their twins 3 years ago and his grief is so hard to bear along with my own. We have discovered that open adoption is way more complicated and emotional than we expected. The adopted family is warm and loving but the adopted mom can be vindictive. She gets angry at something we said and then withholds communication . They live across the country and on their last visit to the area ( for a wedding ) they promised us a visit and then did not show up. The next day they said there was just no time . Well, it could be years before we see them again. I have looked for some support groups for birth grandparents and birth dads but it all seems to be for birth moms. Thanks so much. I feel better just from typing out my story.
Posted in: Community Wisdom– July 8, 2013